Dear Cr-Abby from Younger than my Years

WIFE MAKES AGE AN ISSUE BY LYING TO HER HUSBAND

DEAR CR-ABBY:

I have been married to "Andrew" for five years. I consider him to be my best friend. We have known each other for six years. I am 38, and Andrew is 33.My problem is Andrew thinks I'm 34. I didn't exactly tell him my true age way back when, and he believes I am four years younger than I actually am.We want children, and I know that this is the time to come clean. But I'm not sure how my husband will react when he hears the news, and I'm afraid he may leave me. I have prayed about this, and it seems the best course is the truth. What should I do?

-- YOUNGER THAN MY YEARS

Dear 38 Going on 29,

While honesty and trust in a marriage are important cornerstones, I don't think you have too big an issue here. Haven't you heard, 40 is the new 30? However, before I jump into my advice and your solution, I'd like to share another letter I received the same day I got yours.

Dear Cr-Abby,

My name is Andrew and I'm 38 years old. I have been married for 6 years and my wife who is 34 and she is ready to have children. The problem is I haven't been totally honest with her. I love her very much,... really I do, but lately I have become to have feelings for a co-worker,...let's call him Frank. Frank is so sensitive yet wise and mature. Where as my wife is always trying to act younger than she is,..it really is annoying. I have never thought of myself as Gay but these feelings just won't go away. Should I be honest with my wife before we bring a child into my confusing world?

--Conflicted and Cornered

So, anyway,...back to you and your little fib about age. Cr-Abby rule of thumb...I always add 15% to any woman's stated age and I advise that women should subtract the same percent from any man's stated size.

If you want to continue the rouse as to your age, we do live in the age of 20 million illegals in the USA and identity theft is more or less a cottage industry. Getting yourself a birth certificate and accompanying identification should be no problem. So, see poof you are now 34!

(Just ask your Gardner "Fred Smith" where to go for the docs).

However, based on Andrew's letter you may want to rethink your entire approach to your dilemma.

Cr-Abby