Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Dear Cr-Abby from Dennis in Rochester NY


MOM'S PROBLEM WITH MANNERS MAY BE MISPLACED PRIORITIES
DEAR CR-ABBY: May I point out something to "Mannerly Mom in Cumberland" (July 23)? She's the woman who, after thanking someone, becomes offended when she hears, "No problem," rather than, "You're welcome."In many languages, the literal response to "Thank you" translates to, "It was nothing." So a reply of "No problem" is not entirely inappropriate. In fact, it makes more sense to me than, "You're welcome," which I don't understand at all. I am welcome to what?
If "Mannerly Mom" is really worried about teaching her children proper manners, shouldn't she be more concerned that they DO respond in acknowledgment rather than insist that they use the proper words? To me, that would be a much more valuable lesson.

-- DENNIS IN ROCHESTER, N.Y.



Dear People with too much time on your hands,


Cr-Abby doesn't mind providing his valuable insights to those in need. However, he does get his claw in a pinch when you whining slackers waste good newsprint space with this dribble. Miss Manners needs to get laid (a lot) and the whole clucking brood of hens that follow her are also in need of a roto rooter rub down.


Dennis in Rochester NY; (are you a Jack Benny radio routine team?) I'm not sure why a dude is even tuning into this manners channel but you may need to check your "y" chromozone level and ponder the more important issue of your ordination if this type of problem warrants your intervention and attention.

As for the debate about "Thank You" v. "No Problem" I offer this alternative;
"Don't trip over yourself with praise and thanks, I routinely help out the disadvantaged and I wouldn't want to tax your abilities by belaboring how to properly show your gratitude. So here you go, send whatever amount you deem appropriate to; Cr-Abby, 3rd shell on the left, San Diego Harbor, Pacific Ocean".

Cr-Abby

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