LEARNING TO TURN DOWN DATES IS A CRITICAL LESSON FOR GIRLS
DEAR CR-ABBY:
I would like to encourage all parents of daughters to teach their girls how to say "no" clearly and with grace.
My teenage son asked a girl to the homecoming dance recently. She said, "Oh, I'll have to think about it. I don't know whether I want to go or not." She may have thought she was sparing my son's feelings, but it left him in limbo. He figures she doesn't want to go, which is OK, but he can't ask anyone else because she hasn't said yes or no.
My son's question should have been answered with, "Yes," or "No, thank you," or "I'll have to check. I'll let you know by Monday."
Cr-Abby, learning to say no is an important skill all women should have throughout their lives. It's imperative to know that if we mean "no" we shouldn't say "maybe." Likewise, hearing a "no" is something young men need to learn how to deal with as well.
Being able to say no to a boy who asks for a date may seem small, but it may make saying no later to something major that much easier.
DEAR CR-ABBY:
I would like to encourage all parents of daughters to teach their girls how to say "no" clearly and with grace.
My teenage son asked a girl to the homecoming dance recently. She said, "Oh, I'll have to think about it. I don't know whether I want to go or not." She may have thought she was sparing my son's feelings, but it left him in limbo. He figures she doesn't want to go, which is OK, but he can't ask anyone else because she hasn't said yes or no.
My son's question should have been answered with, "Yes," or "No, thank you," or "I'll have to check. I'll let you know by Monday."
Cr-Abby, learning to say no is an important skill all women should have throughout their lives. It's imperative to know that if we mean "no" we shouldn't say "maybe." Likewise, hearing a "no" is something young men need to learn how to deal with as well.
Being able to say no to a boy who asks for a date may seem small, but it may make saying no later to something major that much easier.
-- NICELY NEGATIVE IN BURLINGTON, N.J.
Dear Strung Along in Jersey,
Too bad your former Governor didn't get turned down by his wife. She wouldnt have had to find out the VERY HARD way that her hubby was GAY.
http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/people/m/james_e_mcgreevey/index.html?inline=nyt-per
Anyway back to women who string us along and then dash out our hopes after a long ride on the Hope Express to nowhere...been there done that!
I agree with your plea but it sounds too needy to me and women sense and abhor weakness.
You don't really hold sway over other people's daughters but you can train and prep your sin. Tell him to use the old "if I..."x" will you..."y" close". Where "x" is something tangible of interest to the lady and "y" is what your son wants. Then tell him to say,..this offer expires at midnight.
Repeat process until a date is secured...in my experience it is a 3 day average.
Cr-Abby
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