DEAR CR-ABBY: My girlfriend, "Jasmine," has been seeing a therapist to deal with serious depression and anxiety issues, and I think she has done well for the most part.
I am just upset that she has taken to smoking with her co-workers to deal with stress. I don't like smoking. My mother smokes, and I find it disgusting.
I hate saying these things to Jasmine because when I do, she takes it personally. We have discussed this more than once, and she insists that my asking her to stop is "being controlling." I can't know what stress she is experiencing because of her emotional problems, but I do know that smoking isn't the solution.
I love Jasmine with all my heart, and it's devastating to me to say this, but I can't be with a smoker. Our relationship has been great, but I do not choose to spend my life in a haze of tobacco smoke. I am in college and every day I see kids my age outside freezing their butts off for a smoke because it isn't allowed inside.
Please help me, CR-Abby. This is something I can't compromise on. It's enough that I already have one person close to me who smokes -- I don't need another.
- ANTI-SMOKER IN MICHIGAN
Dear Relationship Up-In-Smoke In Detroit,
I don't like chain smokers and I don't abide anti-smoking Nazi's...the world would be a better place without either of you.
My guess is your controlling nature is the genesis for her depression. You may have the surgeon general, social trends and common sense on your side....Jasmine only has her right to make life choices for herself on hers.
That said, I side with Jasmine...take a powder and move on.
Cr-Abby
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