Dear Cr-Abby from Mom in St. Petersburg, FLA

DAD SAYS DAUGHTER'S INTEREST IN GIRLS MEANS NO SLEEPOVERS
DEAR CR-ABBY: My 14-year-old daughter, "Melissa," is bisexual. Most girls her age have sleepovers, but my husband says that any girl Melissa likes should be considered the same as a boyfriend, so it is not appropriate for her to spend the night.
I disagree. A girlfriend is not the same -- mainly because Melissa won't end up getting pregnant after spending the night with a girl. What do you think?

-- MOM IN ST. PETERSBURG, FLA.

Dear Parental Unit in Dangling Chadville,

What would good ole St. Pete say...

Tell hubby that when his car spins out on a wet road he knows to "turn into the skid" to straighten (forgive the pun) out the vehicle. The same is true of teenagers. Think of it as opposite day. Here's an example of what not to do...

When my daughter was 17 she wanted to get a small tattoo of a little butterfly on her chest (below the viewable line I was assured). My ex-wife said yes, and I said no and the particular shop involved required both parents signatures (go figure). So, she couldn't get the tattoo. 4 days after she turned 18 she got a tattoo but she decided to flex her new found legal muscle and now sports a giant coy fish from her elbow to the top of her deltoid. Such reflects the strength of a fathers influence. Tattoos and orientation are about equally permanent.

You can also tell him that while many young people "know" what their orientation is very early,...many are still jello not yet put in the frig and there is wiggle room. When I was 14 I wasn't sure if I wanted to use my left or right hand when I errr uhmm relaxed (if you catch my drift). I was reasonably sure what movie I was playing in my head but it is not a "lock" which side of the bread you butter. That said, you might want to mentally prepare for a life with painters working the left side of the fence.

Now to the matter at hand,...girls sleep overs and boy sleepovers are different (the boys are far messier) beyond that not too much difference. It isnt the group thing you should fear (that is still a few years off) but I'd discourage the one-on-one until the jello is thick enough to hold a fork (18+)...just watch out for those tattoos.

If you fight her on the dumb stuff, you'll push the car off into the emergency lane for sure. If you play it smart and turn into the skid you might have a different result. BTW, what were you thinking, if you didnt want a muff diver, why did you name her Melissa,..it's almost a lock that Melissa's don't play ball.
Finally, a) to minimize the PC lashing I'm about to take and b) as a matter of perspective I offer this....

The world she is a-changing. You can remember your parents and grandparents being applaud at long hair, loud music,r dirty dancing, recreational drugs or sexual liberty...well guess what we just became our parents and next stop is the bi-sexual revolution. I'm not a player, but I suspect I'll be forced to sit in the audience and applaud.

Viva la difference!

Cr-Abby