Dear Cr-Abby from Too Quick in San Jose

MAN'S CAREER IS TWO-YEAR DETOUR ON ROAD TO MARRIAGE
DEAR CR-ABBY: I have been dating "Felix" for six years. He moved in with me a year ago. We decided to do it because it made sense economically, and also to find out if our lifestyles meshed. We now know that we are compatible, and I feel that I am living with the man I would like to marry soon.
My problem is although I have a stable, high-paying job and am ready for marriage and children, Felix is not. He has given me the distinct impression that he has no plans to marry me for at least two years -- until he finds a higher-paying job and can support himself instead of depending on me.
I feel awkward not knowing when -- or if -- Felix will propose. I now realize that I acted too soon in encouraging us to live together. I don't know if I should just accept our living situation or ask him to move out until he's ready for marriage. How should I approach this without making him think I no longer love him?
-- TOO QUICK IN SAN JOSE

Dear Too Quick,
At first I thought you were going to write me about his err uhmm E.D. or Premature E.J. issues, but I see you suffer from the same illness many women do these days...
"got to have it all, Got to have it now" syndrome!

You love him, your compatable, you made the decision to "test drive" the living situation. He is guilty of wanting economic parity before he ties the knot and you are in a snit about it.

If he were such a decent fellow he could just get hitched with you and freeload. Of course with a name like Felix, maybe you can have a marriage where he keeps the house clean and you keep the house.
Kick him out and that is not a move forward, allow things to languish and you will be unhappy,...so you have to convince him that you are fine with you being the main income earner and that you will NEVER HOLD IT AGAINST HIM...EVER.

Then you may have a shot at the gold (well maybe brass) ring.

Cr-Abby