Dear Cr-Abby from Living in the Past in Phoenix

DEAR CR-ABBY: Two years ago, I caught my finance cheating on me. I was devastated. In my heart I don't think he would do it again, but still I find myself looking through his e-mails, checking phone records, etc. I find myself crying hysterically and replaying the moment I found out he was cheating over and over again in my head. It's driving me insane. I want to forgive him, but I don't think I can.
Can you please help me find a way to let go of the past and return to the confident me?
-- LIVING IN THE PAST IN PHOENIX

Dear Hysterical Historian near Doc Holiday's Haunt,

A cheater doesn't cheat on you he/she cheats on themselves. He/She has tarnished their word (like earning a bad credit rating for your soul). You yearn for what was, but that is gone.

He broke the glass and now you have to decide if you want to have a repaired goblet with it's flaws or find a new piece of crystal.

He was/is your finance and he broke the vow even before the ceremony. How will he do 7 years into a marriage?

If you want to keep this particular piece of stemware for life then you better go to a professional repair shop and stop trying the DIY treatment.

It's your wine (time), pour it into whatever vessel you opt to,..as for Cr-Abby; I would have left the pieces on the ground and found some nicer flute at Tiffany's.

Cr-Abby