Dear Cr-Abby from Wavering in the South

DEAR CR-ABBY:

I am trying hard to rebuild my marriage. My husband and I have three young children. Four months ago, I met a man (I'll call him "Jack") who made me feel like I haven't felt in a long time. We have not slept together.
We tried several times to stop seeing each other, but unfortunately, my attraction to him was too strong. This week my husband and I separated. I saw Jack this morning. Before things went too far I told him that I had herpes.
Cr-Abby, he practically had a heart attack -- and ended it on the spot!
The thing is, what I said wasn't true. I just could not think of another way to make him stop being available so I could concentrate on my marriage. I feel like such a coward, and I am heartbroken. Not only do I miss Jack terribly, I also can't bear the thought that someone who made me feel so happy would just turn his back on me.

Would there be any point in telling him that I lied, or did I do the right -- albeit cowardly -- thing?

-- WAVERING IN THE SOUTH

Dear Seeing Stars in Bars Near Appomattox,

First things first...Let the dust settle a bit with the soon to be ex-husband before you start jumping into or being jumped on by anyone in a new sty.

Newsflash,...all "new love" feels exciting and fresh...sustainable?...NOT!

Herpes or no Herpes you need to see one doctor or the other kind...you need to take your foot off the gas pedal, drive the car to a safe packing lot and sort out your route before you take the wheel again.

Of course, having been witness to this movie before you will not listen and car wreck #2 and more is right around the corner.

Did I hear you right... You have 3 small children and just newly separated? Get your priorities aligned. Get the kids into a routine of safety and security before you bring home new "daddy candidates".

There are assorted battery operated devices available to help you through the rough, lonely patches while you hit the reset button on your life.

Cr-Abby

PS; Get off Jack and let Jack, Jack Off to Get Off while you tend to matters of more import!!!