Dear Cr-Abby from Ready to Give Up in Florida

August 30, 2008
DEAR CR-ABBY: I was raised by a horrible stepmom who made it her purpose in life to make my brother and me miserable. When I became a stepmom, I made it my goal to be the best one I could be, and for the next 15 years was a giving, loving stepmother to both of my husband's children.
The problem? They take me for granted! They are not only disrespectful to me, but also to their father, who is a cancer survivor. During the last two years of treatments, I haven't been able to depend on them for anything. At this point, I'm so disgusted I couldn't care less if I ever see either of them again.
My husband is torn. He gets upset when I talk about them or mention how they treat us. I'm at my wits' end, and I'm ready to leave. I have stood by him through sickness and hard times. Every time I see a light at the end of the tunnel, his adult kids show up. What should I do?
– Ready To Give Up In Florida

Dear Gator Tears,

Boo Hoo,..."Nobody likes me, everybody hates me,...guess I'll go eat worms"!

In this scenario I have empathy for your husband. Being torn between you bitching about "his" kids disrespect and their apparent inability of lack of inclination to "play nice with you" must be a real cross to bear.

My instinct is if you leave,...there will be a huge sigh of relief from the rest of the family who view you as the catalyst for the problem.

Think I'm being mean?

Re-read your last line..."every time I see light at the end of tunnel, his adult kids show up"!

Wow talk about your self indictments!

Your light at the end of the tunnel is clearly life without his kids...ever!

Do your husband a favor and leave...and dont let your selfish a## hit the door on the way out.

Cr-Abby
PS; I'll bet your stepmother has a different story to tell as well. How do you spell Karma?